“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” (Proverbs 31:10)
The closing verses of the book of Proverbs describe for us the distinguishing characteristics of a godly woman. Her life stands out in sheer radiance and gives glory to God. She is trustworthy and hard-working. She is modest and wise. She is considerate, strong, and clothed with dignity. Her children rise up and call her blessed, and her husband sings her praise. Charm is deceitful, beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
As I have been meditating on these verses this morning, I have once again been reminded by God that these verses describe my wife. Anita is a “Proverbs 31” woman. She is a blessing to me and a true gift from the Father of lights. Last night, we had some dear friends of ours watch our children so that she and I could have a date night together. I can’t even begin to tell you how important this is to me. At times, the pressure of ministry and leading becomes heavy for me. For her, the little cries for mommy all day long become taxing. There are times when it is crucial that just the two of us go off together–phones turned off, emails turned off, and all other voices tuned out for a brief time. There will be a time when someone else leads the church as I one day grow old. Our children will be grown and will have families of their own. Then, it will be just Anita and I. For this reason, we cultivate our relationship together. We pray together, spend time together, and grow together. Neither of us is perfect, but we serve a perfect God who supplies us with the grace and strength that is necessary for life. When both of us are surrendered to God and sensitive of each other’s needs, it is a beautiful portrait of the relationship that Christ has with His bride–the church.
I want to encourage you to take time for your spouse. Don’t get so wrapped up in what you do for a living that you forget to make a life. In this age of distraction, be intentional in your marriage. There are times when it is important to simply get away from it all and spend time with one another. If we are to have a strong and healthy church, it won’t happen without having strong and healthy homes. Husbands, be thankful to God if He has blessed you with a “Proverbs 31” kind of woman like He has done for me!